Feeling stuck is a common reason for initiating therapy. In the past week, I have had several clients disclose these feelings. “I don’t know why I am feeling this way, nothing is really going on. I just feel stuck.” This is usually an indication that one is needing or wanting change but unsure about the change.
Fear is usually the underlying feeling that is keeping the person stuck. For some, awareness exists about what to do next, but dealing with the reality of the change, can leave one to feel paralyzed. For example, realizing one’s relationship is toxic is one thing, however, making the decision to leave the relationship, would require dealing with the effects of the loss, financial instability, unresolved feelings of self worth, being a single parent, etc.
Awareness of the outcome could lead one to stay in the dysfunctional relationship. The toxic relationship feels safer than dealing with the fear of the unknown. When these thoughts surface, it can lead to feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. The awareness around the situation may be overwhelming and one may not be ready to effectively deal with the situation.
Therefore, in order to continue homeostasis, people with disordered eating may utilize eating behaviors as a coping mechanism. Binging, purging, restricting behaviors help numb feelings and keeps the thoughts out of consciousness. Thus, having difficulty identifying what they are feeling stuck or disconnected about.
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